St. Paul’s Lutheran Church – Lowry, MN
Advent 3 | 12.15.2019 | Matthew 11:2-6
An emotion that comes forward in today’s Gospel passage is disappointment. John the Baptist is disappointed.
I think it’s important to talk about disappointment this time of year. As much of a job the anticipation of Christmas does for our spirit, our disappointments don’t disappear during this season. In fact, for many of us, the Holidays and Christmastime bring a particular heaviness, and today’s bible story can serve as a reminder not to repress our disappointment, our heaviness, or our blues, but to state all of it, and to lift it all to God as John the Baptist did.
So, what are yours? What are your losses and your disappointments that you carry into this Advent and Christmas season? Is it the death of a loved one? Is it depression? Anxiety? Stress? A lost job? Farming anxiety? Family dysfunction? I want you to think about the heaviness that you carry. Is it the bully at school? The bully at work? A past relationship? A struggle for meaning or purpose in daily life? A mistake you made? Is it illness? Aging?
Although this is the season of hope and light none of these things fully go away in this season. In fact, in some strange and sinister way, some of these disappointments and blues can become heavier now than at any other time of year. For instance, for many, this season simply serves as a reminder of who is no longer here, and of what is not going right.
There is a great lyric by Jim Croce that accompanies such a sentiment:
Snowy nights and Christmas lights, icy windowpanes make me wish that we could be together again. And the windy winter avenues just don’t seem the same. And the Christmas carols sound like blues, but the choir is not to blame…
-‘It Doesn’t Have to Be That Way,’ 1973
This season can be really tough – even if joyful at the same time. There is lot of heaviness compounded by the season. I think of the children who will spend Christmas in a hospital bed. I think of nursing home and care-center residents who will long in Christmas memory of their former homes. I think of those of you who will spend yet another Christmas without your beloved, and therefore another Christmas that just doesn’t feel fully right. I think of my cousin, Taylor, who lost the love of her life, Jordan, twenty-seven years old, to suicide on Thanksgiving week. I think of those of you for whom this season presents stressful financial burden and risk. I think of the laid off, the overstretched parents, the lonely, the prisoner, the refugee, the soldier, the overworked, the poor, the orphan, the widow…all for whom this season will be heavy with levels of disappointment.
Disappointment is probably something upon which we don’t really want to dwell around the holidays…but it’s real. So, let’s face it. Let’s name it. Let’s also remember our sisters and brothers for whom this season is really hard. Talking about and acknowledging our disappointment, as we see today, is biblical.
Early in the Gospel of Matthew John the Baptist spoke with great excitement of the One who was coming, a Messiah, who was going to be the fixer of all things, the ultimate military champion (see 3:1-12), a hardcore conqueror of dramatic proportions[1]; that’s what John was expecting in Jesus – a warrior-king who would make all things right and change the system. But here, eight chapters later, that’s not the type of savior Jesus was turning out to be, and not only that, now John had found himself in prison…because of the corrupt leadership that he was hoping Jesus would destroy!
One theologian expounds:
[What John] predicted and longed for has just not arrived…you see, he expected the world to change; [but] now…things seem all too dreadfully the same…now, sitting alone in a prison cell, he is still waiting for that promise to be kept. John is, at best…disappointed.[2]
And that disappointment brought on doubt and confusion for John the Baptist. While in prison John would even tell a person visiting him to go find Jesus and call him out!—to ask him, “Are you the one who is to come, or are we to wait for another” (11:3)?
It’s a moment in the Bible where one of Jesus’ most eager followers was losing hope and doubting the legitimacy of his Messiah…and what an honest text in which to immerse ourselves, because I wonder if many of us aren’t in the same space as John the Baptist – defeated, stressed, despairing…especially around Christmas!
That same theologian adds:
[John makes] a tremendously…sympathetic and useful character at this time of year. For aren’t we also still waiting for the consummation of Christmas promise?…isn’t it precisely what is so wonderful about Christmas—the promises of peace on earth and goodwill among all—that is also so difficult about Christmas, as the headlines and sometimes even our homes [and lives] regularly make it clear that peace and goodwill are…scarce commodities.[3]
This is what is so important about the season of Advent. It is a time, at least for a little while, to name honestly the misfortunes of many, including ourselves, to name the fact that many of us are “in a funk as dark and dank as John’s prison cell…Disappointed with ourselves, with the world, and even and especially with God, which feels all the worse [near] Christmastime.”[4]
Disappointment. The blues. That is where John the Baptist was in this moment, and perhaps is reflective of where some of us are.
And now…Jesus’ response to that disappointed question from John. So, Jesus, are you the One, or not!? Do you make a difference or not?
To the crowds, Jesus responded:
“Go and tell John what you hear and see.” (Matt 11:4).
Then, perhaps you can imagine the scene – John in a dark prison, wondering if it gets better, wondering what all the good news and hope is about, “when all of a sudden there is a knock” at the prison door.[5]
Jesus’ messenger arrives. The messenger offers Jesus’ reply:
[John,] the blind receive their sight, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the poor have good news brought to them. (11:4-5).
To John’s disappointment, Jesus spoke a different kind of hope.
Jesus was saying to John: I know I am not the warrior king you’d hoped I’d be. But I am out here, serving, loving, and being present to the suffering.
Jesus was saying to John: I may not be overthrowing Herod’s government, but I am out here…with the disappointed.
Jesus is saying to us: I am out here…with the depressed, the anxious, and the bullied. I am with the one trying to pick up the pieces of their broken relationships and broken families. I am with the child in the hospital bed. I am with the nursing home resident who longs for their former home. I am with the one who grieves their deceased. I am with Taylor who mourns over Jordan. I am with the laid off, the overstretched parents, the overworked, the lonely, the refugee, the soldier, the orphan and the widow.
This is the message of hope Jesus sends into the heart of any of our disappointment: he is with us. Our Emmanuel.
Amen.
[1] Arland J. Hultgren, Commentary on Matthew 11:2-11, workingpreacher.org, http://www.workingpreacher.org/preaching.aspx?commentary_id=1935.
[2] David J. Lose, Disappointed with God at Christmastime, workingpreacher.org (12/08/2013), http://www.workingpreacher.org/craft.aspx?post=2911. (*emphasis mine)